Best Piece of Advice #10

WARNING: Stop Eating Turkey Sandwiches!!

Ladies, this one is for you! Ever gone out on a date with the guy of your dreams and before the dessert course, he's a total nightmare? At what point during the experience do you say "Check please?!" The undying quest to find Mr. Right begins with one step; learning to identify Mr. Wrong! So often we meet guys who tell us up front they are not the "one" only to ignore it in hopes he doesn't know himself as well as he thinks does. INCORRECT! 

The guy telling you he’s not ready to be in a relationship know best and you should heed the warning. If you are looking for a long-term, committed relationship which may ultimately lead to the union of marriage, you have to stop investing your time, efforts and energy into dating jive turkeys. The guy looking for a “good time” is rarely ever looking for a commitment at that moment and knows exactly what he wants. So, how do you avoid wasting your time with Mr. Wrong and spend more valuable time with Mr. Right? By KNOWING WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU WANT!! Before you begin dating you need to become acquainted with yourself. 

Sit down and write out your realistic list of what you're looking for in a mate and what you have to offer a potential partner.  By doing so, you will become familiar with yourself and what needs; you need met by your intended mate. If you are a procrastinator, finding a partner that likes things done promptly, on time and has to motivate you in order to get them done; will be short lived before that person becomes tired of the job. Compatibility is KEY! It is best to have as much commonality with your potential partner as possible in order for you to work towards success!! Never look for someone with traits so far outside of your own the two of you struggle every time you are together.  Folks, if you like lounging on the couch the entire weekend watching TV, ordering dinner in, find a guy that likes laid back weekends as much as you do. 

This way, you know he’s comfortable with the way the two of you spend your leisure time on your days off. If you want someone attentive, affirming, smart, loving, and kind. Dating the guy that is rude, insensitive, and ill-mannered is probably a huge mistake? Know what you want and be firm in it! Next, know your deal breakers. If you don’t want to date a guy which smokes, drinks heavily, is foul mouthed, and likes to party all night long, DON’T!! By bending the rules of what you want you ultimately get what you don’t! 

Truth is, if you never say to someone “I really don’t like that.” What you are saying is “I like you just the way you are.” If you are straight forward and honest with someone the first time, you can avoid the clean up later on down the line. Say what you mean, and mean what you say in order to obtain good results. Furthermore, don’t expect perfection! No one is perfect. YOU ARE NOT PERFECT! 

Let’s try not to be so quick to harp on those petty imperfections your guy might have if overall he’s great! We all have little absurdity which can drive a partner crazy! The objective is to find compatible ones the two of you can live with. And last but not least (and you’ll all hate me for this one!), STOP TALKING TO YOUR SINGLE GIRLFRIENDS ABOUT HOW TO GET A MAN!! 

If she’s ALWAYS available to talk with you about the search for Mr. Right, the chances are her techniques don’t work any better than yours do!! Talk to your friends which have snagged Mr. Wonderful and ask them how they did it. They may have information, methods, or insights you’ve somehow over looked which may be worth investigating. Remember, to be a success you have to see a success? Very true even in the case of dating as well. 

If you follow these few simple practices, you shouldn’t be dating too long either. By making these few easy changes to your dating routine, you will be well on your way to dining with Mr. Right and not sitting across the table from a jive turkey sandwich! Good journey!!