Life Lessons 101, lesson
#2: Is there such thing as healing pain? Breakups suck! The pain of separation
has been likened to experiencing a living death by some. Your heart aches, you’re
sick to your stomach, you can't eat or sleep, and your mind is constantly
preoccupied with your perceived loss. You’re weary and you can't let go. The
pain you've experienced in that toxic relationship now pales in comparison to
the pain of healing.
But, that's just it, one
is a damaging pain and the other is the pain of the healing process. The one
pain (if you stay locked in the connection) will only continue to tear you
down, fill you with self-doubt, and drive you to a dark place with little rationale.
Whereas, the other pain is cleansing, clarifying, restorative, and
strengthening you for the release of the chains holding you captive to a
situation that has far out lived its expiration date. Pain is the brain's way
of signaling to the rest of the biological system that something is wrong and
requires your attention. It is necessary to endure a little pain during any
healing process however, this pain is significantly different than hurt that
you've felt while being mistreated, disrespected, abused, and neglected to the
point of not having your needs met. This pain will result in your delivery and
ultimate restoration if you can get through the process to realize the healthy
properties in the decision you've made to release the relationship.
Bear in mind, all things
pass away and time truly does bring about a change with effort and action. You
will survive this heartbreak just as you have those in the past. The secret is
to trust the process, pray, refocus your thoughts and energies on the positives,
while believing God for true emotional freedom from what hurt you. It can be
done! However, running back to the source of your pain for fear of the healing
hurt will only delay your progression to feeling whole again; the choice is
yours. You are worthy of a love that will love you in return and treat you in
the manner of which you deserve. Get out of your own way and experience
the abundance of life that came only come with the reciprocity of true love!
Love out loud! ~ Tay (L.I.F.E with Purpose)
